Don’t believe me? Ask anyone who has dated or been married to a true addict or alcoholic. These tragically fatal conditions always affect our loved ones the most. Spouses and significant others are, unfortunately, rarely ever spared the pain we make a habit of causing and spreading like wildfire.
Rarely is this ever our intention. When you run around causing destruction, chaos, and pain in people’s lives, as so many people with addiction or alcoholism do, intentions don’t mean a whole lot. Results do.
I owe apologies to women who would rightfully never let me back into their lives, in order for me to be able to properly do so. People I loved dearly, who I hurt in ways it is not even my place to describe here, via my addiction.
I set fires to relationships that would have more than likely lasted years longer than they did if it weren’t for my habit of choosing a drug over a supposed priority in my life, like a significant other.
I understand that much of this may make people uneasy, and some may find it difficult to read. I’d ask them for enough empathy to imagine what it’s like to not only write this, but also live through it, and force your favorite person on earth’s surface to do so with you, unwillingly.
Lastly, and I’m speaking from experience on this one as well — without saying too much that will cause unnecessary pain to people in my life who may read this — alcoholism and addiction end up having a generational effect on your romantic relationships. I’ll clarify what I mean by that because it matters.
Alcohol, drugs, and all that come with them may be the root of more broken homes and relationships gone bad than any other specific cause I can name. When a child grows up with an addict or alcoholic for a parent, it affects their relationships with the opposite sex in ways very few would have ever seen coming, with the exception of maybe someone with a background in psychology. I won’t pretend to have the education or knowledge it would take to break this aspect down further for you. All I have is the real-life experience it takes to acknowledge it and be aware of such.